Food cravings…
This whole week has revolved around conversations about food. Everyone seems to be wrestling with either a need for a chocolate fix, a coffee addiction or pasta fixation. Last week we had a workshop at the Kloof street branch of Wellness Warehouse about that very subject – food cravings so I thought I would put down some of the solutions and causes we discussed. It seems that although our bodies crave certain foods when we lack minerals or vitamins, our cravings are more frequently connected to emotional eating. They often manifest when we ignore the cravings that come from the soul. We use food to replace what we aren’t doing in other areas of our lives. Cravings come when we have emotional issues we aren’t dealing with. They might plague us because we need comfort or love. Getting them in check can be done by sorting out emotions, getting into an honest relationship with ourselves, pin-pointing nutritional requirements, balancing meals to incorporate all six tastes and burning oils to stabilize emotions. I have started with the emotional aspect then gone on to eating and nutrition. See how far you go in getting your cravings in check.
Starting with you…
Most of us feel an urgent need to live life to its fullest. To answer the whisperings that come from the soul; to truly embrace life and live expansively. Whatever this might mean for you, it could be changing your career, getting into or out of a relationship, going on a huge adventure, sorting out an anger issue, you know what yours might be. Unfortunately through fear or apathy we ignore the cravings of the soul. We make excuses – I will do it next year, I can’t because of x,y,z….
When we don’t acknowledge our desires and take steps to make them happen our soul cravings try and get us to notice them. Often they manifest as cravings of another kind. The craving to eat, to smoke, drink another cup of coffee, hit the bar, the mall, we each have our own preferred type of self-defeating behaviour.
To get on top of this, the first place to start is to acknowledge your desires. Here’s how.
Take a mental snapshot of your life.
Look at all the different areas – relationships, friendships, career, hobbies, mental stimulation (study/education), personal appearance, fitness and health, emotions, daily enjoyment, routine, adventure, excitement…..What do you feel? What do you see? What comes up as urgent, what nags you? What excites you?
Identify a few of your desires; try finding one in three different areas like love, money and adventure. Adventure could be: go to Morocco; learn how to ride an off road motorbike, study wild dogs, learn how to flirt outrageously. Money could be: earn more, charge more, sell your creative talent, have a savings account, win the lotto, make a budget, be fabulously wealthy
Love could be: repair a relationship, fall in love, get a pet, love myself more. Write yours down and keep them, this way they will nag you – let them do that.
The second step is to become important to yourself. Establish that you are important enough to follow your desires. In this area you will come up against the type of relationship you have with yourself. Most of us have a failed relationship with ourselves. We wouldn’t treat a guest in our home the way we treat ourselves; going a whole day without eating, not taking time out to rest, ignoring the things we want, not living our best life. See how true this is for you. Then, vow to make a commitment to yourself. Shift your attitude from ‘how does my life look or ‘how do I look’ into ‘how can I care for myself’…
Take all your disappointments and self-criticism and see how much energy you use on berating yourself. Now take this energy and use it to see how you can care for yourself. This will be the beginning of a new attitude creating a dedicated shift towards an alliance with your body and yourself. From this place we learn to discern our body’s subtle messages and the means to respond in a healthy way. From here we can resolve self blame, criticism and negative body images present in so many lives.
So, being in harmony with yourself, your desires and who you are creates a level of honesty and integrity with yourself that won’t provoke activities that work against you.
From here, things get a lot easier. We no longer have to rely on willpower or a fight against our desires to keep our cravings in check. With an unsuccessful relationship with the self we are not in harmony and rely on willpower to keep our cravings in check. This requires a huge amount of energy. We find ourselves in a complex power play between control and submission, will power and defeatism. Sometimes we fall into addiction. Resolving the emotions attached to eating is essential and more effective than using will power to resist cravings. When using will power the feelings of deprivation produced create stress and imbalance. Not fighting the force of craving but redirecting it towards caring for ourselves, is an easier option requiring less discipline.
Step three involves moving right into your hungers. Not repressing them or trying to push them away but seeing what they really represent. In moving into our hungers we learn to consume what we want and what we need. We can learn to differentiate between our body’s real hungers for physical sustenance from our emotional cravings for things like self-esteem, love, meaning, boundaries or fulfillment. Don’t try and suppress your hungers or cravings, go into them. Feel what your craving feels like, follow it, see if it takes you somewhere, see if it has any pictures or feelings attached. Try and locate an emotion, a colour, maybe a texture, a question, a sadness or frustration. Think of this exercise as the art of the inner meal. When dedicating your focus on the presenting problem (I can’t stop binging on chocolate), the problem gets bigger, but looking at what is behind the cravings (I feel unloved) helps us to reframe them and heal them on a different level. Sometimes when doing this they naturally dissolve.
Discerning the difference between Physical versus Emotional Eating
At first it is hard to differentiate between physical hunger and hunger that is emotionally-based. By becoming more in tune with your cravings you will be able to tell the difference.
A physical craving won’t go away if you wait it out. It will still feel like a physical craving.
An emotional craving doesn’t have any true physiological hunger behind it. It won’t increase if you wait it out or distract yourself. What will happen is the underlying emotion behind your hunger will increase. It will go away if you satisfy what the real need behind your food craving is. If its love, speak to someone that loves you and affirms you, if you are exhausted, take a nap.
You know you are Emotional eating when:
- You find yourself eating something without realizing it.
- When you eat after experiencing certain emotions, like anger, boredom, or sadness.
Be conscious of what you’re eating and take a few deep breaths before you reach for the donut. Assess whether you’re really hungry or just eating mindlessly. Find a more positive way to work through these emotions. Go for a walk to clear your thoughts instead of turning to food. Compulsive eating can be changed into mindful eating through a process of awareness. Although this may initially produce resistance or anxiety, it will reveal the motivating reasons or negative feelings that are causing the compulsion.
Balancing emotions behind the craving
In terms of emotional eating repeated trips to the kitchen for something to nibble on or diversions to the café for a chocolate fix have nothing to do with being hungry. These compulsions are merely servicing an unsettling emotion like anger, insecurity, restlessness, fear or loneliness. We trick ourselves into thinking our cravings can be fulfilled through chocolate, coffee, peanuts or pastries when in actual fact it is a feeling of wholeness we crave and not a taste. Pratima Raichur, author of Absolute Beauty (Bantam) believes that when we have a craving, it is not so much the taste we want as the sense of balance it gives.
This means that since the scent of a food has the same balancing effect on the mind as its taste, you can get the satisfaction you are seeking by smelling it rather than eating it. You can ‘eat’ a taste with any of the senses to satisfy psychological hunger.
Alternative solutions for emotional eating:
COMFORT CRAVINGS:
If you crave Carbohydrates and/or Sweet or Creamy Foods this indicates a desire for nurturing, calming and grounding energy and will accompany feelings, whether conscious or not, of anxiety, insecurity, restlessness, fear, worry or upset.
Solution: Dab a sweet oil like orange blossom or neroli on your pulse points or massage the oil into your body. Find a memory of something sweet and dwell on that instead of following the craving. Have a loving conversation with a friend, listen to sweet music or drink fennel tea.
ENERGY CRAVINGS:
These usually involve a desire for coffee, coke or chocolate to balance feelings of dullness, lethargy, sadness and depression.
Solution: Burn pungent oils like bergamot, clove or rosemary, play loud and lively music, have a stimulating massage or drink ginger or Chai tea with honey.
SETTLING DOWN CRAVINGS:
Cravings for salty foods like nuts and chips often reflect feelings of extreme frustration, anger, annoyance or excitement.
Solution: Use sweet scents like jasmine or sandalwood, take moonlight walks, have a calming massage and drink licorice or cardamom tea.
Eat with mindfulness
Be present when you sit down to a meal, turn off the television and radio, don’t read or work and take stock of any feelings that come up as you eat. Chew each mouthful 100 times. Make a rule to never eat standing up. Don’t eat something unless it’s on a plate. Eat with your fingers. Eat quietly, don’t talk. Give thanks before you eat. Notice what it is you are eating.
Keep in mind that all body tissue is formed from the nutrients we consume. Realise that foods we usually choose to deal with our cravings, like stale processed and lifeless foods, are those that create ageing and lifeless bodies. Eat a physical diet rich in fresh foods and a mental diet of enlivening thoughts and loving feelings. When we are totally balanced in body, breath, mind and spirit, psychological hunger, which is at the root of all eating problems, is not an issue.
Balancing tastes
There are so many conflicting messages about what constitutes a healthy diet. Most advice concentrates on excluding foods. Ayurveda (an Indian system of medicine) recommends that all tastes be experienced at each meal. This means sweet, salty, sour, pungent, bitter and bland. When all tastes are satisfied we won’t have any cravings that tempt us to eat junk food. When we eat a balance of tastes, the mind is balanced. When we have peace of mind, life is balanced. When we have a disproportion of any taste, the mind is easily swayed by emotions. Tastes have corresponding emotions as seen below. See if the foods you eat more of match up with the emotions you feel and then balance these emotions by eating a variety of tastes.
TASTE EFFECT IN PROPORTION EFFECT IN EXCESS
Sweet love, satisfaction desire, attachment, need, passivity
Salty mental ease mental rigidity, greed, addiction
Sour mental acuity envy, regret, resentment
Pungent ambition, motivation hate, anger, jealousy, aggression
Bitter mental clarity, insight grief, disillusionment
Bland optimism, well-being fear
Other Reasons Why We Crave
Nutrition:
Cravings usually take place when we haven’t been eating properly. We crave when our blood sugar levels are low, which is what can happen if we don’t eat healthy foods rich in vitamins, nutrients and protein in regularly-spaced intervals. When we crave, our bodies usually seek foods that are high in calories or fat in order to satisfy the void in our stomachs. The foods we crave have deeper roots; for example, if we are lacking minerals like zinc or magnesium, which are found in meats, we might crave a chocolate bar, which contains the same ingredients.
Childhood conditioning
As children, we were raised to associate food with certain emotions. For example, you may have got chocolate for finishing a homework assignment, ice cream for getting your tonsils out, chicken soup when you were sick. This type of rewarding reinforces food with feeling comforted or acknowledged. When we need comforting in adult life we might unconsciously reach for one of those foods. This association between comfort foods and an emotional state of mind is hard to break in adulthood. With awareness it becomes much easier.
Body Intelligence:
The often overwhelming desire to eat has long been explained as an evolutionary quirk dating back to when food was scarce. Craving is a normal occurrence and as long as we don’t let it get out of hand, it doesn’t pose any major risks, emotional or physical. But cravings do have a fundamental psychological component that we must all be aware of. Some common emotional triggers are: stress or anxiety; loneliness; anger; PMS; and sadness or depression, feeling unfulfilled or trapped, boredom etc. Food craving is a safety mechanism built into our bodies. When we were hunter gatherers, those cravings, made us go out and source the food our bodies wanted. Today we only need to go to the supermarket or the fridge to satisfy our cravings. Scientists have theorized that we crave fatty, salty and sweet foods, because favouring them proved an evolutionary advantage.
SUMMARY OF WAYS TO REDUCE CRAVING
Control Your Emotions
Keep cravings under control by analyzing what’s really going on in your life. By reflecting on what the positives and negatives are in your life you’ll feel more in control of your life and less likely to turn to food for consolation.
Try keeping a journal to analyze your thoughts and emotions. Jot down what activities a typical week includes, whether you like these activities and which activities you prefer to spend your time on.
Nurture what’s really missing in you life. Is it food you want, or love? If you’re feeling lonely or depressed, talk to a friend or loved one and reconnect with the people in your life. Find positive ways to cope with difficult situations in your life. Take up a hobby, such as a dance class, or join a local book club. This will give you an outlet through which to express yourself and also help you feel more connected to the outside world. Avoid an “all-or-nothing” approach when it comes to food (or life for that matter). If you’re on a diet or are simply being more conscious about what you eat, don’t let eating one “bad” food be the end of it. Acknowledge the indulgence, then move on.
Knowing your emotions means that you’ll be able to enjoy food without feeling guilty.
SATISFY ALL TASTES: Have one meal a day that incorporates all the different taste sensations – salty, sweet, sour, pungent, bitter and bland.
SENSE - Use your other senses to stimulate you - listen to a great song, watch something fabulous, have a bubble bath, Feed the real void in your life, and most of your food cravings will disappear.
STASH - Stock up on low-cal, low-fat versions of what you crave most.
SCHEDULE - Make an appointment with yourself to enjoy a small amount of your favorite item.
A little of something bad is better than too much of something good – Hippocrates.
STALL - Most cravings dissipate after 20 minutes, so waiting it out may help. Chew a piece of gum and then occupy your mind with some other activity.
SNIFF - Studies have shown that the scent of peppermint can cut cravings. Pop a mint or slather yourself with a minty-smelling lotion or refer to the oil that matches what you are craving.
SHIFT - Rather than focusing on eliminating a food entirely, think instead of cutting down your portions.
SEE - Looking at a new image can derail your urge for cookies and cake. Distract yourself with pictures online or thumbing through a coffee table book.
SURRENDER – Give in once in a while. Make sure you satisfy your craving with quality tastes so you really enjoy it.
STILL - Quiet your inner struggle with food and the cravings may disappear on their own.
SWIG – Drink a glass of water before you reach for a snack
For mentoring guidance on developing a successful relationship with yourself contact Robyn on thirdeye@icon.co.za or 083 320 8080